Is someone you love thinking of killing themself?

Learn the signs of suicidal thoughts & get help before it’s too late

Elizabeth Collins

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Last year my brother-in-law killed himself. I had just seen him the night before & I had no idea that he was that severely depressed. I knew he was upset because the day before he & my sister’s house had burned down. (I wrote about that in detail here: https://medium.com/@elizcollins/anatomy-of-a-suicide-688b4452d624)

All of their friends were pitching in with clothing, food, money, and offers for a place to stay, and my sister seemed to be handling things well.

When I first saw him that night, I hugged him. We didn’t normally hug, but I felt it was the only way to express my sympathy about the loss of their home. I will always be glad that I did. He seemed like his usual self — talkative & friendly, so I thought he was okay.

I’ll never forget how I felt when my sister called the next morning & told me he shot himself. I wondered if he was dead but I was afraid to ask. Maybe he was injured but not dead. Did he accidentally shoot himself? As she explained to me, I realized that he was dead. There was no letter, but he had made a few calls first, one of them to 911. The security camera at his business had recorded it, so there was no doubt it was suicide.

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As the day went on, I thought about everything he said the night before, looking for a clue that I missed. I thought about what I said to him and wondered if any of it was the wrong thing to say. I was so sad, yet numb. I knew how he felt because I had tried to kill myself before.

After that day, I tried to reconcile my attempts at suicide with how I felt about not being able to help him. I read a lot of information about preventing suicide. I decided to write “How to Help a Loved One who is Depressed” to help others in similar situations. It’s one of my most popular posts. (https://psiloveyou.xyz/how-you-can-help-a-loved-one-who-is-depressed-5d567e1b5c8b)

Since then, though, I’ve wondered if what I wrote was too rambling. I’ve thought someday I should write a more step-by-step version.

Then a few months ago the brother of one of my oldest friends hung himself. They knew he had been depressed since…

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Elizabeth Collins

Health, psychology, current events, politics, cats, tech… Suicide prevention & mental health are extra important to me. Stereotypes fall when we talk openly.